Learnt from a mum's-eye-view
As a 30 year old working mumma of my 2 beautiful kids (5yrs and 6months) life is now officially BUSY. And since becoming a parent, the definition of the word busy? IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT! Like now I’m actually busy.
But a life lesson that I truly didn’t learn until I became a mother, was just how incredibly important it is to make yourself a priority. Every. Day.
What you learn REEEAALLL quick on the job as a mother, is you are always going to be needed by someone, to do something. And that you cannot pour from an empty cup. You need to be looking after yourself and your needs, before you can look after others and theirs.
I like to think of it like this, let’s paint a picture.
You’re a working mum of three kids under 8 and you’ve booked a playdate for them with a girlfriend of yours who also has kids of her own.
You’ve woken up, got the kids breakfast, got them dressed, brushed their teeth, packed them food for the day and made their beds. You’ve then made your own bed, made a coffee on the run, answered some work emails from your phone and managed to fit in a quick solo wee somewhere in there too. Shoes are on, kids are loaded into the car and off you go. You get to your destination, and wonder why the hell your friends are looking at you with a look on their face that’s telling you you’re wearing an outfit that was better left back in the 60’s. What?! You ask as you begin to glance around at your kids and yourself, eventually seeing what they’re all staring at.
Your kids are ready, dressed, hair did. But you forgot you. You’ve got bed hair, still got your pj’s t-shirt and gym shorts on that you wore to do the vacuuming that morning.
Basically, your kids look ready for the runway and you look like you just rolled out of bed and are currently sleepwalking your way through the day. #whatevenissleep!?
What I learnt
Eventually after 2 kids and multiple meltdowns, I learnt that if we don’t make ourselves a priority (sometimes first priority) our family, friends, colleagues, people around us, won’t get the best of us - they’ll get the rest of us.
And a lot of the time a mother, wife, girlfriend, caregiver ultimately sets the tone of the home. I know if I get up in the morning and I’m in a bad mood because I haven’t made any time for myself or put myself as a priority all week, the rest of my household will emulate that and the whole house vibe will be brought down significantly.
Okay, but HOW do I make myself a priority?!
So this part will look different for everyone. But it’s so important that we find ways of looking after ourselves, that we learn the art of making ourselves a priority and sometimes, even putting ourselves FIRST.
For me, this could look like a few things.
I LOVE to read and I LOVE drinking coffee - and I love both even more when I can do them alone without a kid asking me for a cracker every 5 seconds. So heading out to my favourite little local coffee shop with a book is a big win for me. Or sitting in a quiet corner of the house in a big comfy chair with a fresh hot cuppa and my book = bliss.
I also really love to dance. It’s a big part of who I am, and when I do it - I feel completely free and it helps me express emotions that I sometimes didn’t even know I was feeling or experiencing. So making time for this can really fill up my soul and help me feel prioritised.
What is something that you could do to prioritise yourself?
Another one we love here is giving yourself a mini before bedtime pamper. Doesn’t need to be fancy or long - even just setting aside 10 mins can do wonders!
So set the time aside one evening and before you settle into bed for the night, follow these steps (or make some of your own) and give yourself the lovin’ you deserve.
Clean your face of any of the day's worries and concerns. We like to use The Uncomplicated Cleanser which is great for all skin types and for gently removing makeup and impurities.
2. Calm the skin
Apply an anti-redness serum like our Anti-Redness Minty Green Smoothie which will help to calm any areas of the skin that are showing signs of the day you’ve had!
I remember reading an article where the journalist was interviewing Jessica Alba #glowyskingoals. Jess was asked how her skin was always so soft and supple, to which she answered “Everytime I get out of water, I apply moisturiser”. Well… you can bet that EVERY TIME I get out of the shower now, I am channelling those Alba skin vibes and moisturising with great enthusiasm. A great way to hydrate your face is using the Hyaluronic Hydrating Serum which locks in moisture for the night ahead.
4. Seal it
Lock. It. In. (Eddie). Use a nourishing face oil to finish off your little pamper session to ensure all of that good stuff is locked in. My favourite OF ALL TIME is the 24K Gold Nourishing Oil. Yes, it’s as fancy as it sounds! And you’ll wake up with a face as smooth as a baby’s bum! Trust me. I’ve compared them.
So keep this as a little reminder to make yourself a priority, put yourself first sometimes and watch the people around you flourish! Not sure where to start for a bedtime pamper routine? Reach out to our Skin Service Team for your FREE skin consultation!